In Indonesia, Mother Day is celebrated on 22 Dec. I have been having these thoughts lingering in the corner of my mind since several days a go. But without the time and opportunity to write it, my fingers numb from too much restraining to pour this thoughts into words. So here we go…

With all the work and life hustling and bustling around me, plus some enlightenment from friends and series of soul searching episodes, I came to conclusion that actually the core business of life is at home. Please bear with my HR jargons. It’s all I know. It’s all I have been for the past decade. So please, bear with me. Let me continue my mundane rambling.

So actually, the ‘man’s work’, which is to finance his family literally means to finance the ‘core business’. Making money part of life has been the support function. The business is the family. Just like in an oil and gas company. The core business, or the main goal, is making money through selling oil and gas. The rest are meant to support this to happen.

Same thing with the family. The vision is to ‘deliver’ the next generations with the best quality. It could be something like:

20 years from now, deliver two young men to the world. Young men who are honest, have good integrity, independent, responsible, and able to do their role and responsibility with good leadership and communication skills.

When vision broken down into series of goal, like a SMART (Specific, Measurable, Aggressive, Realistic, Time Bound) goal, the goal of a family could be:

1. Provide a good family work environment where kids could grow and learn.

2. Provide opportunity for the best education.

3. Provide opportunity to experience life at its fullest and learn to make decision.

This three goals are already stretch enough to meet due to:

1. Limited number of resources (only me, hubby and next of kins)

2. Quality of resources (no parenting experience)

3. Limited time (only 24/7)

However, there are opportunity for development through:

1. Making the time.

2. Focus. When you are with your family, everything else should be forgotten.

3. Consistency and discipline.

And this is all actually how a leadership of a Mother comes to play. A Father’s core business, traditionally (some of my friends would say ‘naturally’) is to finance his family. To support the Mother so she could lead the core business with one mind and soul.

Imagine what is like to be a working mother. When your mind and soul are divided to two core business. If all mothers are working mothers, then full time working mothers are actually squared mothers. Am I right or am I correct?

Happy mothers day, Moms…